Recently I went out with a group of people on a Friday night and for some strange reason we ended up at a beech at 1am. We all decided to jump in and race to the nearest boat but one member of the group didn’t join. He was the more fashion conscious one and he didn’t have the right outfit for the occasion.
If you notice most clothing brands build an image of by you wearing their products you are free and cool but in reality most people are buy the brand are worried about how much they spent on the outfit and are scared to get it ruined.
If a $120 Polo outfit is going to stop you from taking a swim with your friends on a Friday night then I guess you are the worst ambassador for that brand.
Clothes and brands should never define you; as nelson Mandela would say “I am the master of my fate - I am the captain of my soul”
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Even if you think you don't like surprises, your brain does, according to a study published in this week's issue of the Journal of Neuroscience. Scientists from Emory University and Baylor College of Medicine set out to identify the biological reasons for why some people enjoy the unexpected. They used a machine to squirt either fruit juice or water into the mouths of test subjects-sometimes predictably, sometimes unpredictably-and recorded the participants' reactions. Meanwhile functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI) recorded changes in the subjects' brain activity.
"Until recently, scientists assumed that the neural reward pathways, which act as high-speed Internet connections to the pleasure centers of the brain, responded to what people like," Read Montague of Baylor College of Medicine explains. "However, when we tested this idea in brain scanning experiments, we found that reward pathways responded much more strongly to the unexpectedness of stimuli instead of their pleasurable effects." In other words, the subjects' brains were more active when they were exposed to the unanticipated.
"We find that so-called pleasure centers in the brain do not react equally to any pleasurable substance, but instead react more strongly when the pleasures are unexpected," Emory neuroscientist Gregory Berns adds. "This means that the brain finds unexpected pleasures more rewarding than expected ones, and it may have little to do with what people say they like."
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Have a special someone in mind? Wish to strengthen a friendship or relationship? Follow these simple steps to show a them that you care for them.
- Ways to Show People You Care
- 1. Notice them.
- 2. Smile at them.
- 3. Encourage them to think big.
- 4. Look them in the eye when you talk to them.
- 5. Ask them about themselves.
- 6. Let them tell you how they feel.
- 7. Listen to their stories.
- 8. Call them on the phone just to say hi.
- 9. Answer their questions.
- 10. Ask them their opinions.
- 11. Give them your undivided attention.
- 12. Believe what they say.
- 13. Tell them what you like about them.
- 14. Delight in their discoveries.
- 15. Listen to their favorite music with them.
- 16. Tolerate their interruptions.
- 17. Suggest better behaviors when they act up or act out.
- 18. Show up at their games, concerts, and special events.
- 19. Tell them how much you like being with them.
- 20. Tell them about yourself.
- 21. Help them take a stand, then stand with them.
- 22. Ask them to help you with something.
- 23. Keep the promises you make to them.
- 24. Tell them how proud you are of them.
- 25. Send them a letter, postcard, or e-mail.
- 26. Introduce them to your friends and family.
- 27. Make time to be with them.
- 28. Be excited when you see them.
- 29. Notice when they grow.
- 30. Remember their birthdays.
- 31. Believe in them.
- 32. Meet their friends and family.
- 33. Include them in conversations.
- 34. Laugh at their jokes.
- 35. Do things together.
- 36. Respect them.
- 36. Respect them.
- 37. Find a common interest.
- 38. Do what they like to do.
- 39. Applaud their success.
- 40. Contribute to their collections.
- 41. Read aloud together.
- 42. Accept them as they are.
- 43. Share a meal together.
- 44. Go places together.
- 45. Build something together.
- 46. Make decisions together.
- 47. Help them learn something new.
- 48. Be honest with them.
- 49. Encourage them to help others.
- 50. Let them make mistakes.
- 51. Admit when you make a mistake.
- 52. Be nice to them.
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bad daysNov. 29th, '10 @ 9:02am
Guess what? In the coming weeks you will have a bad day, too. Whether you are an entrepreneur launching a new product, an employee aiming for a promotion, or simply someone going after a big goal in your other 8 hours, you will experience disappointment and setback. How you respond to disappointment could determine your eventual success or failure. Why? A really bad day can, at best, cause you to lose momentum, and at worst, cause you to lose your will to continue.
Here are five tips to survive a bad day:
- Don’t add more pressure. Forget about turning lemons into lemonade. The first rule to follow when trying to turn around a bad day is to not try to turn around a bad day — that’s nearly impossible and puts way too much pressure on you. Your goal should be to survive the day and minimize the long-term damage by agreeing not to make any decisions. After a barrage of bad news, your decision making ability will be all messed up. Take a break and, if possible, escape…
- Escape. It’s easy to get too analytical and try to think your way out of a bad day, but often this can just cause you to dwell on the problem. Sometimes it makes sense to escape. Go see a movie. Go dancing. Play with your kids. Do whatever it takes to distract yourself and stop obsessing about your bad day. Your “problems” will still be there when you return, but you’ll come at them with a fresh mind.
- Insulate yourself. One of the best ways to shield yourself from negativity is by wrapping yourself in a “positivity condom.” Wake up 10 minutes early and write about those things for which you are grateful on a daily basis. About a week after I started doing this, I got some really bad news. The very first thing I thought was “this sucks!” I was shocked and angry. After about 20 seconds of this, I immediately thought back to what I had written earlier in the day. It instantly changed my perspective.
- Eliminate overgeneralization. What happens when you’ve been doing great on your diet but suddenly find yourself with an empty bag of Doritos in your lap and an unnaturally orange substance covering your hands? Usually generalization. This is where you turn a single negative event into a never-ending pattern of defeat, and it’s this kind of thinking that can cause you to give up after a bad day. The solution? Attack the belief. Write down all the reasons why this bad day is really just that — a bad day — and not a sentence to a life of failure.
- Avoid personalization. Personalization is another cognitive distortion. It is when you take credit for an event for which you didn’t have any control. Many of the negative events you will face will be beyond your control, but you might blame yourself. Got laid off? It might not have anything to do with you and everything to do with the company, but if you personalize this you’ll beat yourself up over it. Again, the solution here is to attack the belief. For each negative event, ask yourself, “Am I responsible for this or was this outside of my control?”
When you throw down the gauntlet and commit yourself to improving your life, you will face challenges. If you can follow these bad day tips, you’ll keep your motivation and you’ll spend a lot less time under rocks.
I’d love to hear what you do when you’re having a bad day. Post your bad day tips in the comments section.
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A lot people want to know what leads to success so I decided to build this poster after watching several ted videos and getting some inspiration from my environment.
- Persistence is first on the list because that is what makes success that hardest to achieve. We can all quit on a project but not many can persist.
- Ideas are important because we have all been influenced differently and faced different challenges in this world. If we think about those challenges then we can all develop innovative ideas to solve those challenges.
- Doing a good job is an essential part of success because there are plenty of people too happy to do a half ass job. If you do a good job and challenge the norm, you set a precedence that is extremely hard for others to imitate.
- We all need a good push in life, we need to push for success but we also need someone to push and motivate us, so surround yourself with people that will push you forward (family, mentors and role models).
- Serve your environment, money is a substitute of the service we provide. So if we can provide a great service to the masses then society will reward us accordingly.
- Passion is what makes us forget about the pain and hardship, when a soldier is shot in a war zone, they break his finger to forget about the pain. In life when we are having a hard time the passion is what drives us forward. You need to believe in change to implement change.
- Work is the four letter word most people dread, but a select few enjoy. You don’t need to be a workaholic but you do need to be a workofrolic. Find a job that makes you forget about time and enables you to focus on results.
- You need to train your brain to focus on the task at hand and forget about all other distractions. The sun radiates a lot of energy but you need the magnifying glass to make the leaf burn. Your body can also generate a lot power and ideas but you need to direct it.
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